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When children resist parenting time

Parent separation or divorce can be a challenging time for everyone involved, especially children. Unfortunately, in some cases, a resist-refuse dynamic may develop.

A resist-refuse dynamic occurs when a child resists spending time with one parent, and the other parent refuses to make the child comply. This can be due to various reasons, such as anger, resentment, or fear, and can have significant negative impacts on the child's wellbeing.

It's essential to address a resist-refuse dynamic as soon as possible in the best interest of the child. First and foremost, it's important to understand the underlying reasons for the child's resistance. This may involve seeking professional help, such as a counsellor or therapist, to determine the cause and address any underlying emotional or psychological issues.

It's also crucial for both parents to work together to find a solution that is in the best interest of the child. This may involve mediation or counselling to help parents communicate effectively and develop a co-parenting plan that works for everyone involved.

If necessary, a court may need to intervene to ensure that the child's wellbeing is protected. This may involve establishing a custody or visitation agreement, or in some cases, appointing a guardian ad litem to represent the child's best interests.

In conclusion, resist-refuse dynamics can occur in parent separation, but it's crucial to address them in the best interest of the child. Understanding the underlying reasons for the child's resistance, working together to find a solution, and seeking professional help if necessary, can help ensure that the child's well-being is protected. By putting the child's needs first, parents can navigate this challenging time with compassion and empathy.


When children refuse contact

It can be difficult knowing where to start when your child may not want to spend time with you:

What you might be doing wrong

Here's a list of 25 things that can cause a child to not want to spend time with their parent (or any significant person):

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